In my last post I mentioned that it is the Father’s role to lead his family spiritually. In many families this role has been handed over to the church, Sunday school, Christian school or sometimes Mum. While spiritual input from all of these areas can be very beneficial, it is primarily the Father’s responsibility. One tangible way that Dad can take hold of this role is by leading his family in daily devotions (sometimes known as family alter or bible study time.)
WHAT ARE FAMILY DEVOTIONS?
- Regular bible study with the whole family. This time can also include worship (in the form of singing), prayer, and possibly catechism and scripture memorization. Catechism and scripture memorization are both important, however some families do them separately at other times throughout the day.
WHY SHOULD WE DO IT?
- In short – God tells us to! It is not enough to take our children to church and youth group and hope for the best. We must disciple our children, teaching them in our homes, with the Father as the primary lead in this area.
- We become the prime spiritual influence in the lives of our children – it allows us to shepherd our children’s hearts; preparing their hearts for the gospel and salvation, building their faith and strengthening a biblical worldview.
- Worshiping and communicating with God is vital for the whole family, not just Mum and Dad.
- It promotes personal spiritual growth, helping us (and our family) to learn the bible, it’s doctrines and teachings in order that we know what we believe and why. If our children do not know God’s word they will be unable to honour, respect and live by it. Children need to learn that the bible tells us what to do and gives us insight for daily life; that it is relevant to them and their everyday situations. As families study together, parents can weed out errors in belief and misunderstandings
- Worshiping and studying God’s word together builds family unity, strengthening and building healthy family relationships.
HOW DO WE DO IT?
- The “how” of family devotions changes with each family’s unique situation, time constraints, ages of children and a myriad of other factors. Find a way that works for you and do it – regularly!
- Decide where; Lounge chairs, around the dining table, on the end of beds, sprawled on the lounge room floor…
- Decide when; As soon as the family is awake, immediately before or after a meal, after dinner clean-up, just before bed? Ideally choose a time when children are fed and well rested.
- Decide how long; this depends on the age of the children. Keep it to a reasonable time limit, but not so short that you cannot give adequate attention to God’s word.
TODDLERS AND YOUNGER
- Give thanks before meals. Hold the child’s hands and encourage them to join in with “Amen” at the end. Encourage them to echo or say simple prayers as they are able.
- Pray with and for the child at bedtime
- Have your own devotions in front of the child
- Read short, colourful bible stories. Perhaps ask a simple comprehension question or two afterwards.
- Sing simple bible based children’s songs together
- Bible stories are still important, branching out into the lesser known ones.
- Spice up your devotion time by acting out stories, using puppets or pictures, involving the children in role play and re-tell.
- Introduce real-life stories, applications and real Christian “heroes”
- Ask questions for comprehension and real-life application of what they have read; “What would you do if..?”
- As children can read, have them take their turn to read out the verses being studies.
- Discussion, sharing and engagement become much more important.
- It’s ok to not always have the answer – model how to find out.
- Personal devotions for the children should be well and truly up and running – perhaps set “homework” and discuss together, work through devotional books together or research tricky questions.
- Discuss current affairs and politics and the biblical basis for decisions making in these areas. What are the biblical rights and wrongs of what is going on?
- Teens take time – make sure you plan for it!
- Beware of dumbing everything down for the younger children, they will pick up more than you think.
- use a mix of resources; some days may cater more for the younger, others the middle or older.
- Young children may stay for the first part of devotions then head off to bed while the older children delve in more deeply.
- Involve the older children in planning and running the devotion time.
- Everyone may do the same bible study together, with younger children having a children’s bible story at night before bed and older children working through separate studies in the evening
- Sing together. Perhaps a kids bible song, contemporary worship song and a traditional hymn. Do not neglect the great hymns of the faith; the words in these will teach spiritual truths to children and will lodge in their memories for a lifetime. Voddie Baucham’s article on family worship touches on why we should sing hymns: http://web.me.com/voddieb/vbm/Blog/Entries/2009/11/5_Answering_Your_Questions.html
- Study the bible. There are many ways to do this. A couple are: Chapter by chapter (simply work your way through books of the bible from start to finish in small chunks), following a theme or topic or read 1 proverb, a section of a psalm and a couple of verses from the New Testament each day.
- Several great ideas are included in an article by Al Troester here: http://www.wholesomewords.org/family/famaltar.html)
- Perhaps Dad could read through the selected text to begin with, then ask those children who can read to take it in turns to read 2 lines each and those who cannot yet read to echo the words of each verse after you. Dad then teaches back through the selected text – children are asked to contribute to discussions or ask questions after he has explained each line or two. Each person finishes the bible study section by telling something they have learnt or can apply to their own lives. Always look for the applications and personal lessons after each reading and teaching time.
- Pray. All family members take a turn to pray for whatever is appropriate that day. It is helpful to have some kind of prayer journal or recording system to help with purposeful prayer and to notice the answers to prayer that God gives us. Record the date it was prayed for, what was prayed and leave a column to record God’s answer.
- Catechism. The catechism is a series of questions and answer that children memorise to learn the main doctrines of the Christian faith, building a strong foundation for world view and ensuring they know what they believe. (More info on this another time:)
- Scripture memorization. (More ideas on how to do this another day too :)
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