The larger your family grows, the more important it is to have some standby plans for managing those days when you have a sick child, the baby cried all night or unexpected interruptions take away all your usual “keeping things running” times in the day. It requires some preparation and planning ahead, but that investment is well worth it when one of “those” days arrives. Many of these tips are also useful if you are preparing for a new baby.
Here are a couple of my ideas to get our family through a day or two when life is just too difficult to even think about what you are going to cook for dinner.
- Meals should be healthy – avoid takeaway if possible or sick children’s already overloaded immune system will be fighting off the effects of bad food on top of everything else.
- Keep a supply of freezer stock meals to defrost for “those” days.
- Make an emergency menu – meals that you or older children can put together in minutes and ingredients that are always on hand.
- Put the crockpot/slowcooker on in the morning when sick children may be less likely to need your attention.
- Have your regular menu already planned so that the meals do not require thought.
- Teach your children to cook. In a pinch, my 6 year old can put together a salad, the 8.5yr old can prepare a simple main meal and the 4 year old can get the table set and water glasses set out. If your emergency meals are simple enough and you spend some time teaching your junior cooks how to make them without assistance, they will be well prepared and love to step up and help Mum out. It gives a child a great sense of accomplishment to be able to announce to Dad and the family that they cooked dinner all by themselves. (Obviously there are safety issues to consider – Mum may need to be the one who slides the casserole into the oven.)
- Have a list of suitable toddler activities that can be pulled out from an easily accessible place with a good storage system (Ziploc bags, shoeboxes, crates etc.) Set it up so that an older sibling can get them out for your younger child.
- Create a flexible routine that includes activities such as playpen time, table time, mat time and highchair time so that you know you will be free to attend to the children who need it. Implement it on a daily basis so that it is a usual part of your day and well established before “those” days hit.
- Today it is ok to watch TV.
- Today it is ok to play outside a lot (the well ones!)
- Teach your children to work independently.
- Leave the subjects you absolutely must teach yourself for another day or a suitable moment throughout the day.
- It generally works better if we go ahead with school regardless of sick children. Well children mixing with cranky sick children without a lot of structure is a recipe for a bad day.
- Have systems in place so that all children, regardless of age, know what they should be doing on a daily basis and in what order, whether you are there or not. (Workbox systems, a shelf of activities per weekday, Ziploc bag tasks, workjobs in a shoebox, Montessori style tray activities, pictorial or written timetables and schedules or whatever system suits your children.)
- Read aloud a lot while children colour/play quietly/fold laundry or simply rest.
- Train older children to help out with regular daily chores.
- Do only what is essential (if today is washing day – skip it or use the dryer. You don’t have time to hang out those loads.)
Afternoon quiet time
- This time is precious to me – older children have room time, younger children nap and I can then have a nap too (assuming the sick child does not require attention at this time.)
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